What I help with

Relationships and saying what you need

Maybe you find it hard to say what you actually feel or need. Maybe arguments keep going round in circles, or you keep people at arm's length even though you want to be close. It can feel lonely, even when you're surrounded by people.

Where it shows up

  • Struggling to say what you need, then feeling resentful
  • The same arguments coming up again and again
  • Pulling away when someone gets close
  • Worrying about being rejected or let down
  • Wanting more connection, but not knowing how to get it

What's often underneath

Difficulties in relationships often come from older patterns, like learning early on to keep your feelings to yourself, or expecting to be let down. They can also be tangled up with anger, low confidence, or the stress you're carrying from elsewhere.

Patterns that often show up

Shutting down

Going quiet when things get difficult, hoping it'll pass

Keeping the peace

Saying yes when you mean no, then quietly resenting it

Pushing away

Keeping people at a distance before they can let you down

Firing up

Arguments escalating fast, then feeling ashamed afterwards

Most men recognise more than one. Seeing the pattern is often the first step to changing it.

How I can help

We'll work on understanding the patterns that keep repeating, where they came from, and what you need instead. Then we'll work on finding your voice, and feeling able to use it with the people who matter to you.

If this sounds like you, a free 20-minute call is a good place to start.

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